During the time in between Thanksgiving and the New Year many people have a predisposition to feel overwhelmed and/or over committed, worried about finances with gift giving, the abundance of food/alcohol/sweets leading to over indulgence and weight gain, or maybe tension with specific family members. These triggers can often overlap as well. This can create a conflict in one’s mind, as we are generally taught throughout our lives that it is supposed to be a time of joy and celebration. In fact, various studies show an astounding percentage of people find this time of year to be extremely to very stressful. However, the truth is, it does not have to be. You can learn how to enjoy the holidays, which allows you to dedicate more time and energy into creating peaceful memories filled with joy.
There Are Two Parts to Stress: Their Stimulus & Your Response
It is important to know that it is not what is actually happening around you that is making you feel upset, uncomfortable or stressed out, it is how you respond to it internally. We generally learn through life to believe the holidays are a happy, joyous time of year, we have a tendency to react negatively to what is going on around us.
So, although we are generally conditioned to believe this should be “the most wonderful time of the year”, we have a predisposition to react to what is happening, or the actions/words of others. You cannot change what other people do or say, or how they treat you, but you can alter how you perceive it and therefore how you react and respond to it, as well as how you treat yourself.
No one can drive you crazy…unless you give them the keys to the car
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognize one’s emotions, as well as the emotions of others, detect specific feelings, classify them accurately, employ emotional information to redirect thinking and behavior, and master and/or fine-tune one’s own emotions to change your response(s), diminish negative feelings and stress, and/or achieve goals. The fundamentals of positive emotional intelligence for personal competence are self-awareness and self-management, and the foundations for social competence are social awareness and relationship management.
• Personal Competence: Self-Awareness & Self-Management
Self-awareness is your ability to accurately recognize your emotions as they happen and understand your general tendencies for responding to different people and situations. After you have a greater self-awareness, you can use your awareness of your emotions to choose how you react, along with what you say and do. This then gives you the ability to positively direct reactions, behavior and emotions.
• Social Competence: Social Awareness & Relationship Management:
Via your own self-awareness and self-management, your social awareness also begins to transform, allowing you to relate to other people for specific purposes over time. As this shift begins to occur, your ability to have greater relationship management activates and develops.
Take Back the Joy
Hypnosis can help you take the time to take care of yourself during this holiday season, as well as help you become more emotionally intelligent. Using hypnosis & NLP, we can work together to change your thoughts, and therefore your reactions related to the events or people around you as you enhance your emotional intelligence. You can learn to relax, look at things differently and handle them in happier, healthier ways all while taking care of yourself too!
Let’s enhance your ability to enjoy this upcoming holiday season, eliminate any undesired or unpleasant feelings/emotions, and create new internal emotional awareness and strategies. Together we can do the work to you to keep calm, confident, outwardly focused, acting assertive when necessary, all while standing up for and taking care of yourself. Take back the keys to your happiness and take a giant leap forward to creating wonderful memories that will last a lifetime!